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If I asked you to touch your head right now, you could.

If I asked you to touch your belly button right now, you could.

If I asked you to touch your anxiety right now, you couldn’t.

That’s because it doesn’t “exist.”

It feels real when you’re swimming in it, but – upon closer inspection – there’s nothing to swim in but your own thoughts.

And those are only true if you engage.

Otherwise, they’re just bubbles.

Here for a moment and then – pop – gone.

This clear division between what is “real” and “unreal” is critical to mindfulness because usually it’s our buy-in to false things that creates the true drama in our lives.

In today’s Minute Mindful, I dive into this concept further, going beyond “false” thinking as limited to judgment and criticism, but expanding the concept to include anything that causes you to be upset.

WHAT IF….we chose another teacher in life besides pain and frustration?

We can, of course, but only when we understand that the true source of our pain has less to do with our circumstances than how we relate to them.

This is as applicable to the “little” upsets we experience (e.g. flat tire) as it is to the “major” ones (e.g. job loss).

After all, the way you sweat the small stuff is just a dress rehearsal for the big stuff. {Tweet this.}

After you watch the video, I’d love to hear your take.

Do you have trouble viewing your thoughts as just thoughts? Are you learning through pain more often than not?

If you’d like to continue this discussion, I’ll be glad to connect with you in the comments below. Peace

Xo –


P.S. I’m currently accepting new speaking engagements for 2015. If you’re interested in having me come to your business, conference, or campus to explore the intersection between mindfulness and leadership – please reach out to me directly. Due to course offerings, current clients, and raising two tiny men, I only take about 15(ish) engagements each year. If you’d like to be one of them, let’s talk.

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One of the questions I get asked most often is “why did you decide to teach mindful leadership?”

My answer is an honest one, albeit clichéd at this point.

We teach what we most need to learn.

As someone who stayed fairly tortured by my own mind until my late 20s, it was a massive relief to finally learn real tools that could help “settle the snow globe” in my head.

For me, the breakthrough came the moment I “got” that the only power my thoughts have over me is the power I give them by engaging.

Before… if I was walking down the street, let’s say, and I happened to pass someone who sparked a split-second of judgment, I’d spend the next five minutes beating myself up for having that judgment in the first place.

Imagine this.

Every day.

For years.

One nanosecond of an ugly thought, followed by rounds and rounds of “Why can’t you stop this?”

In today’s Minute Mindful, I’ll share my first step to breaking this cycle. You’ll learn why labeling thoughts as “good” or “bad” actually triggers the snow globe mind, as well as the perspective shift I use to let go of “false” thinking.

WHAT IF….you could dismiss unserving thoughts the instant they arise?

Since inner chaos drives outer chaos {tweet this}, it’s clear the world needs an intervention.

I hope this tool serves your corner of it. Peace

P. S. I’m proud to be a panelist for the Threads Worldwide #ConnectforChange contest. If you win, you’ll receive an all-expenses-paid trip to NYC for Emerging Women Live this fall with Brene Brown, Arianna Huffington, Danielle LaPorte and more than 500 other visionaries from around the globe. All you have to do to get started is “like” the Threads Facebook page (Threads provides opportunities for women in developing countries to sell their jewelry and, thus, earn an income.) Enter here: Good luck!



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As I was leaving for the airport after a recent speaking gig, I heard a voice calling me from behind.

“Ms. Bennington?”

 I turned around to see a handsome guy of around 30 staring back at me.

“I just wanted to let you know that I think you just saved my marriage.”

My chin dropped as fast as my bag.

“How so?”

“Right before your workshop, my wife and I got into a fight over the phone. We hung up on each other as usual, but I just realized that everything I’ve been angry about happened a long time ago. I’m the one still carrying it around.”

“Do you want to stay with her?” I asked.

“Yeah,” he said, “I’d like to.”

“Then treat each moment as new.”

As I said those words – and even now as I type them – I’m acutely aware of how hard this is to practice – so I have a tool that can help.

To learn how the “No Language” exercise can release old junk from yesterday that’s clogging your relationships today, click on the 1-minute video below.

WHAT IF…you approached each moment unhindered by the past? (Click here to tweet this.)

As a mentor of mine once said, “When you see things exactly as they appear to you now, you’ll realize how little you really understand them.”

So now it’s your turn.

Do you have trouble letting go of resentments toward other people? Are you allowing this “stale baggage” to damage your relationships at work or home?

I’d love to hear your thoughts below. Peace