Alpha Femme: Q&A with Amanda De Cadenet

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What were you doing when you were 14? Most women at least were probably somewhere between milestones that included a first crush and first training bra.

Not Amanda De Cadenet.

At 14, she was already a celebrity in her native England, hosting a wildly-popular TV show that gave her unprecedented access to the biggest stars of the day. Just five years later she married one, walking down the aisle with John Taylor from Duran Duran, and becoming a mom all before most people in this country can legally order a gin and tonic.

Now, almost two decades later, De Cadenet is back on TV with The Conversation and – just like her Bri-american accent – she is at the center of two worlds. Because for all the “girl power” Amanda – the one who drives a motorbike and has not only graced covers but has a gift behind the lens as well – there’s clearly a woman who has learned a thing or two about life. Below she shares how being young and famous shaped her self-esteem, the inspiration behind her new show, and why extraordinary pain is often the catalyst to extraordinary growth.

{Side note: I’m thrilled to be a new career contributor to The Conversation website! Check it out here.}

1.) Do you feel that fame at such an early age helped or hindered your self-esteem?

At age 14 you are just beginning to work out who you think you are and being famous is a huge distortion of reality and its not healthy for  a young person to be considered more special than their peers. So, I would say it hindered my self esteem but in later years gave me a great perspective that I wouldn’t have if I hadn’t experienced that.

2.) Recently you said that freedom is “not being bound by my wounds.” What did you mean by that? 

Only when we are sick and tired of being sick and tired do any of us do something different.

3.) Tell us about The Conversation. How did this new show come together? 

Out of my own need to hear stories about women that were honest, authentic and solution-based. I couldn’t find role models that I could look to and say “If she made it through, then I can.” And when I say “make it through” I am talking about the many aspects of a woman’s life, from the joyful to the sad, challenging, confusing, liberating…all of it.

4.) You mentioned in an interview that you originally wanted to do the show to understand how other women handle life’s challenges. What have you taken away from the discussions so far?

That we are all essentially dealing with the same stuff, we are not that different from one another. We all want love and to feel safe, wanted, cared for, to like our selves, our bodies, to have families and feel okay in the world.

5.) If you could go back and give one piece of advice to your 20-year-old self, what would it be?

How about my 14 year-old self? That is  A Conversation question for sure. I would say all the things that cause you pain today will serve you wisely one day and help you have more compassion for people who are also having a rough time, so don’t wish the hard times away – they are there to teach you if you care to listen.

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